Is It Low Testosterone? How Women Can Spot the Signs in Their Partners
Women are often the first to notice when something feels “off” with their partner. Maybe your once-energetic spouse is suddenly too tired for the gym, more irritable than usual, or emotionally and physically distant. While it’s easy to chalk it up to stress or aging, there could be another explanation: low testosterone.
Also known as male hypogonadism, low testosterone is more common than many realize—especially in men over 30. While it can feel uncomfortable to bring up, recognizing the signs early can significantly impact your partner’s health and your relationship.
What Is Low Testosterone (Hypogonadism)?
Testosterone is the primary male sex hormone. It plays a key role in muscle mass, bone density, red blood cell production, mood, cognitive function, and sex drive. Although women produce testosterone too, men generate it in much higher amounts.
When levels fall below the normal range it can lead to hypogonadism. This may result from a problem in the testes (primary hypogonadism) or in the brain’s signaling system, including the hypothalamus and pituitary gland (secondary hypogonadism).
Learn more: NIH on Hypogonadism
Signs Your Partner Might Have Low Testosterone
Many men downplay their symptoms or attribute them to aging, making it harder to identify the issue. That’s why partners are often the first to notice subtle (or not-so-subtle) changes. Here are four common signs to look for:
- He’s Always Tired: Chronic fatigue is a key symptom of low testosterone. If your partner seems unusually drained—falling asleep during his favorite shows, skipping out on activities, or lacking energy—his hormone levels may be to blame. Supporting research: Low T and fatigue
- He’s Moodier Than Usual: Testosterone influences emotional regulation and mental clarity. Low levels can contribute to irritability, anxiety, sadness, or even depression. If your partner is more short-tempered or emotionally distant, it might not just be a bad week—it could be hormonal.Learn more: Testosterone and mood
- He’s Gaining Weight or Losing Muscle: Testosterone helps maintain lean muscle mass and a healthy metabolism. A drop can lead to increased fat—especially around the midsection—muscle loss, and even breast tissue development (gynecomastia), which may impact his self-esteem. Supporting research: Testosterone and body composition
- He’s Emotionally or Sexually Distant: Low testosterone can cause a decrease in libido and intimacy. If he’s pulling away physically or emotionally, avoiding affection, or no longer initiating sex, this could be a physiological issue—not a relationship one. Clinical insight: Testosterone and sexual health
How to Talk to Your Partner About Low Testosterone
Discussing a sensitive topic like this can be tricky, but a supportive and thoughtful approach can make a huge difference. Here are several ways to start the conversation:
- Make it a “we” thing, not a “you” thing
“I’ve noticed you’ve been really tired lately. I’m a little worried—maybe we should both get a check-up?” - Keep it judgment-free
“I know how hard you work, and it makes sense you’d be exhausted. But I wonder if something else might be going on physically.” - Lead with love and support
“I love you, and I want you to feel your best. I’m here to support you through whatever this might be.” - Suggest a simple check-in with a doctor
“Maybe it’s worth getting some bloodwork done just to rule anything out. It could bring some clarity and peace of mind.” - Use a shared health goal as a starting point
“I’ve been thinking we should both get a wellness check this year. It might be a good time to reset and see how we’re both doing hormonally.” - Mention something you read or heard
“I read that low testosterone can affect mood and energy—made me think of some things we’ve talked about. Have you ever had yours checked?” - Talk about intimacy and connection
“I miss how close we used to feel. I know things have been different lately, and I wonder if it could be something medical, like hormones.” - Normalize it by bringing up others’ experiences
“Someone I know said their partner got tested for low T and felt way better afterward. It’s more common than I realized.” - Be direct—but gentle
“You haven’t seemed like yourself, and I just want to help. Can we talk to someone about it together?”
When to Take the Next Step
If you’ve checked off five or more signs across multiple categories—and the symptoms persist for several weeks—it’s time to gently encourage your partner to talk to a healthcare professional. A simple blood test could offer real clarity.
Treatment Options
If your partner is diagnosed with low testosterone, there are several safe and effective treatment options available, including:
- Testosterone Replacement Therapy (TRT): Common forms include gels, patches, or injections.
- Lifestyle adjustments: Diet, exercise, stress management, and better sleep can support hormone balance.
- Ongoing monitoring: A doctor will track hormone levels and adjust treatment as needed.
If your partner has been feeling tired, moody, distant, or just not like himself, low testosterone could be the reason. It’s not a sign of weakness—it’s a medical condition that’s both common and treatable. With the right support, including expert care from TRT Nation, he can start feeling like himself again. And as he regains his energy, confidence, and connection, your relationship can grow stronger, too.
Don’t wait—schedule a consultation with TRT Nation today and take the first step toward getting him back to feeling his best.
*This article is intended for informational purposes only and should not be used as a substitute for professional medical advice. If you suspect low testosterone, consult with one of our qualified healthcare providers today.